About Resilience

Research has shown that resilience is the most important quality
you can instill in your children. [1]

"Resilient" people have been shown to have happier relationships and are less prone to depression, more successful in school and jobs, and even live healthier and longer lives. [3]Reivich, K. & A. J. Shatté. 2002. The Resilience Factor. New York: Broadway Books.

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Resilience can be learned and shared

Substantial evidence confirms that thinking and coping skills that promote resilience can be learned. More than 30 years of systematic research on preventing depression and promoting resilience at the University of Pennsylvania and other university centres has shown that these resiliency skills can be effectively taught to children eight years and older. [4]Reivich, K. & A. Shatté. 2002. The Resilience Factor. New York: Broadway Books; Seligman, M. E. P. 1991. Learned Optimism. New York: Pocket Books; Seligman, M. E. P., K. Reivich, L. Jaycox, and J. Gillham. 1995. The Optimistic Child. New York: Harper Perennial.

Further research conducted by Reaching IN...Reaching OUT demonstrates that these skills can be adapted and introduced through modeling and child-friendly activities with children seven years and younger with positive outcomes.

Why some people "bounce back" and others get stuck

Studies show that the way we think about life's challenges can affect our ability to cope with them. Furthermore, we tend to develop "thinking habits" that can help or hinder our response to stressful situations. Click here to learn more about thinking habits.

People who can think about a situation flexibly and accurately are better able to identify the root of the problem and find options to deal with it. Challenging our thinking habits helps us develop our flexibility and accuracy and thereby supports our resilience.[5]Reivich, K. & A. J. Shatté. 2002. The Resilience Factor. New York: Broadway Books. Click here to learn more about how to challenge thinking habits.

"Role Models of Resilience"

As anyone who spends time with kids knows, little children are mimics. They learn by watching us. Research shows children as young as two copy the coping and thinking styles of adults around them.[6]Seligman, M. E. P., K. Reivich, L. Jaycox, and J. Gillham. 1995. The Optimistic Child. New York: Harper Perennial. Whether we are aware of it or not, we become role models for kids when we deal with life's stresses and opportunities.

Watch the video showing how "children see" what adults "do."

When stress gets the best of us, children learn to lose patience and perspective, to misplace blame and to imagine the worst. When we cope well, children learn valuable resiliency skills like calming down more easily, being more empathic and helping others, being more confident and persevering, and finding alternative ways to deal with problems. RIRO helps adults become positive role models and teaches them special child–friendly activities that build children's resilience.